Dating drunk š©š©
"I'm on a whisky diet. I've lost three days already."
āComedian Tommy Cooper
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I worked from home for five years. With no kids or spouse or mortgage, that enabled me to fully fulfill the stereotype of an alcohol-addled, ink-stained journalist.
I was free to keep my own hours, and there was little to stop me from drinking.
I was in a love affair with alcohol. Nothing on earth could so effectively and thoroughly suspend my fire-breathing insecurities and anxieties.
>> At least for tonight, Iām free to be me.
My mind was no longer working to make me happy. It was working to make my alcoholism happy.
- My drinking grew from bad to worse over many years living in Austin.
- I eventually decided to date women who drank as hard as I did.
But now, as of this writing, it's been over three years of sobriety from alcohol.
The achievement follows a lifetime of whisky in lowball glasses and beer backs.
It follows a lifetime of journalism dreams, and lonesomeness, and attempts to stop drowning.
Being convincingly happy without a drink takes considerable conscious effort.
Our minds are not engineered to keep us happy. They're engineered to keep us alive.
"Iām always feeling so good until I'm not," says a pal from Alcoholics Anonymous.
Along the way in sobriety, I've learned that the souls of the saved and sober still become irritable, vexed, annoyed, and argumentative over anything and everything in life.
If you're not convincingly happy, people might whisper that you're drinking again.
They might whisper that you're not a better person in sobriety.
- next time "She had some horses she hated."
- listening TOOL "Sober"
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